Moms' of the Quince Girl - this is your space

Over the past few months I've received a lot of phone calls from moms who were very stressed, because of all the responsibility they had planning their daughters celebration.

All to often the person on the other end of the phone sounded like she was ready to cry. It was always the last minute mistakes that were popping up. I felt so bad for each one. I tried to help as much as I could with last minute orders etc. But, what everyone needed was having someone who cared and would take time to listen to their problem or sometimes problems.

When I wrote the book Quinceanera Connection Your Dream Celebration On Any Budget, I didn't realize the heavy burdens the mothers of the Quinceanera has. I expected the Quince girl to take on more responsibility for her special day. Now, I don't know whose fault it is that most moms are doing it all. It's just too much for one person to handle.

I recommend before it's to late. You need to get your daughter more involved with the plans. I worked with a group of girls planning their Quinceanera. I gave them my book and we made up the Quinceanera e planner. Anyway, we sat down and reviewed all the details it takes to plan an event for over thirty people. They were surprised as to the number of details that had to be taken care.

Each gal thought of their mother and how little extra time she had for herself. Their moms were working. There were other kids at home that needed attention. There was laundry, cooking and on and on. Does that sound familiar? No wonder the mothers who phoned me were so stressed.

OK, what can you do to make things easier for yourself and your family? No matter where you are in the planning cycle you need to consider some of the following suggestions.

• You need to have a planner to assist you with the organization of all the details relating to the event. This means contact names, phone numbers, contracts, agreements and everything else. The more organized you are the easier it will be for you. And the less chance you will have for expensive mistakes to happen.
  
• If the date of the Quinceanera is within the next month click here and download the free 17 page Quinceanera e planner It's a modified version of the bonus e planner. It will help with handling all the last minute details that can be so stressful you might not be able to enjoy your daughters special day. I could fill volumes with horror stories of things that occurred on the day of a major event that could have been avoided if the person in charge had been totally organized. That also means you will need to created lists for those who are assisting you with last minute and day of the event responsibilities.
  
• What makes a large family event successful with beautiful memories? It's getting everyone in the family involved. That means everyone has to have responsibilities. Sit down and share with your daughter what you have accomplished to date and what has to be done. Ask her where does she feels she can be the most help to you? This will help create a closer bond between the two of you. Plus, not only will she help you with the area she agrees to handle. She will also learn from the experience. She will feel more involved and really appreciate all that you are doing for her special day.
• Take time out on a regular basis reviewing with your daughter where you are in the planning stage and what has to be accomplished. Make sure you use the planner and calendar when you discuss things with her. When you use the planner in your discussions it will eliminate the chance of having any emotional outbreaks. Your daughter should feel comfortable using a planner and the need to meet deadlines. Therefore, when you use the planner workbook she will respect you and herself working together in a discipline environment.
  
• Your daughter needs you more than ever before. It might not seem that way, but it's true. From all the research I have done with groups of teens and moms I've found if a girl can't communicate with her mother, she goes off searching for a boy who she thinks will care for her and listen to her. Teen boys have a different agenda then your daughter has. This is the perfect time to make your daughter feel extra special and appreciated as you listen to her with out judgment. She will love and appreciate you more than ever and not have the need to find love in other places. She is still learning and testing what is best for her. That is why she needs you not a teen boy who is trying to grow up and find himself.
  

Wishing you all the best,

Priscilla